“It’s not the load that breaks you down, it’s the way you carry it.”

-Lena Horne

Excerpts from “7 Days of Self Love” by Sandra Graves

Accepting Oneself
We live in a time when accepting who we are can be difficult. Most of us compare ourselves to unrealistic standards set by advertising agencies, movie stars and the lives of the rich and famous. What we fail to realize, is that oftentimes these standards are a façade like movie sets on a studio. They represent a “front” with no real substance, constantly having to be propped up because they can’t sand on their own. I’ve had the opportunity many times to talk to people that others would often admire or envy. What I have discovered is, the very people we put on pedestals would love to trade places with people that could be classified as ordinary. I have learned that we must be careful what we desire because many times what we think we are running to, is often what we are running from.

Knowing Who You Are
When you know and understand your purpose and why you are here, it is much easier for you to accept who you are and the person that God has made you to be. We are all pieces of a puzzle that fit together to make a beautiful picture. If we are constantly trying to be someone else, we will not “fit” into the spot that has “our” name on it.

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”Joseph Campbell
“Self-acceptance comes from meeting life’s challenges vigorously. Don’t numb yourself to your trials and difficulties, nor build mental walls to exclude pain from your life. You will find peace not by trying to escape your problems, but by confronting them courageously. You will find peace not in denial, but in victory.” Jon Kabat-Zinn
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, define yourself. “Harvey Fierstein
“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can’t accept not trying.”Michael Jordan